I am officially an author. On July 17, 2012 I published my first book on Amazon Kindle. It took two years to write, and a majority of it was done using a mobile phone or an iPad, while standing on the train from Wiesbaden to Frankfurt Germany, during my long commutes to and from work.
Yes, two years is a long time to write a book, especially when edited down, was only about 120 pages. or so. The first year was kind of a wash because I just kept rewriting the first 2 pages over and over. It wasn’t until the following year where I actually took it seriously, created a solid outline (a plan) and dug in.
The goal of this book was not to write a bestseller or change the world. It’s certainly not a feel good, Oprah Club, curl up with a cup of tea, kind of book. (In fact it’s a little bit “shocking” but more on that later.)
It was simply to just write a book, finish it and publish it. It was purely an exercise in completion. In my post about creating a 20 year plan for myself, writing a book was one of my 2 year short term goals. Well… mission accomplished.
It almost didn’t happen though.. (more…)
Thought for the Day: While innovative thinking is a much discussed, rare, valuable and sought after skill these days, sometimes thinking INSIDE the box can be the hardest thing to do.
My advice would be that before you go spending valuable time, energy, money and resources dreaming up some BIG idea and glorifying the need for “new, creative, crazy and innovative” make sure you first have a solid grasp of the “old, tried and true, reliable and predictable.” Chances are you haven’t even scratched the suface of what is right in your very own backyard.
- What underutilized or untapped resources do you have hiding in the closet or right under your nose?
- Who do you already know that you can ask to help you?
- What can you do to make what you already have, even better?
I’d be willing to bet that you have way more options than you think.
New isn’t necessarily better. Sometimes the best new ideas are the old ones that are just reanalyzed and better thought through.
The key to getting what you want in life is a lot like going to the counter at Starbucks.
- If you walk up and ask for a double, lowfat, pumpkin spice latte, you’ll get one.
- Ask for a triple, grande, frappalapamochachino, you’ll get one.
- If you just stand there looking at the cake pops with your mouth open and mutter ”I guess a coffee…??” Then you’ll probably get a plain old coffee. Even though you really wanted that cake pop.
My advice to you is to figure out exactly what you want and then just ask for the damn cake pop.
The world is your barista.
So, what is YOUR cake pop?
I hold in my hand a Military Challenge Coin that belonged to my father. It was given to him by the man who is featured on the coin, Sgt. Chuck Taliano, who was a drill instructor made famous by the “We don’t promise you a rose garden.” Marine Corps recruiting posters printed during the 1970s and 1980s.
Mr Taliano served together with my father in the Marine Corps and was one of the very few men my father truly called his friend. Both he and my father passed away this past year.
Challenge coins are usually given to service members to commemorate special occasions both public and private, and as a sign of good luck.
I carry this coin in my pocket as a small reminder of my father and all the good things he taught me. It serves as a symbol of strength, hard work, the challenges that i face, of the promises I must keep, of the goals I must achieve, of the decisions I must make, and the ones I should never make.
There is a great quote by Zig Ziglar that says:
“People say that motivation doesn’t last. Neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
I think it is important for everyone to have some sort of daily reminder. Something to keep you in check and on track. Something powerful and personal and symbolic that not only motivates you, but helps you motivate others to do the same.
What serves as your reminder? What helps to keep you on track on a regular basis?
Semper Fi, Dad! We love you.
Let’s take a minute to think about plans. What exactly are they and why are they important?
The wiki says that: “A plan is typically any diagram or list of steps with timing and resources, used to achieve an objective. A method to reaching your goals.”
When building a house, you have to have a plan. You can’t just start digging and hammering nails and expect to just come up with something.
In business school they teach you about writing business plans because if you don’t have one, you might have a hard time making any money, which is the point of a business after all.
So what about life? If you want to get to where you want to go in life, you will also need a plan. How else will you reach your ultimate goals and fulfill your dreams? You do have goals and dreams right?
So why is it that so many people go though life without making any plans?
The main focus of my job right now is Information Architecture for software development. This means I draw plans that focus on how a piece of software is supposed to work, look, behave, interact, etc. Needless to say, it irked me a little when I came to the shocking realization that, while I make plans all day for my job, I didn’t actually have much of a solid plan for my life.
So, over the new year I decided to sit down and make some lists and plans for myself and my family and our future. The result was a basic, one year plan and then an extended 20 year plan. (I wrote this post in January, but to be honest, after I made my plans, i was so motivated and busy following them, i forgot to post this, so here it is…)
List 1 – 3 Words
List one is made up of 3 simple words I used to orient myself and stay focused on my key goals over the next year. (I got the idea from Chris Brogan)
My 3 words for 2011 are: Streamline, Ship and Share
This year is all about cut, trim, hack, slash and burn. This year I am stepping off the hamster wheel, and focusing on building oil wells and planting the seeds. I am managing my time more effectively and efficiently, removing obstacles, completing projects and streamlining anything possible to allow me to reach my 20 year goals set up in list 2.
Basically, if it doesn’t serve the 20 year plan, it’s outta there:
- Slicing away all of the unnecessary
- Focus on only learning things that will increase my efficiency and effectiveness
- Ignoring and unfollowing LOTS of distracting social things and activity that don’t provide real value
- Less email checking
- Less random web surfing
- Making the best use of time: time boxes, lists and schedules, practice
- Throw out junk and organize, both physically and emotionally
- Focus on the important and revenue generating
- Focus on what I am good at and what I LIKE doing
- Focus on the positive and less bitching (i really need to work on this one)
- Increase investment momentum and build on my exit strategy
- Complete unfinished projects
- Launch work related projects
- (no excuses)
- (I need to work on this part)
- Build on ways to Influence others and share their ideas
- Focus on ways to help people
- Build my influence in the process
List 2 – The 20 Year Plan
The 20 year plan is broken down into chunks of 2, 5, 10 and 20 year milestones.
These are both personal and professional plans and I shared these with my wife so that we can stay in alignment. Basically a list of everything I want to achieve in a 20 year time period and a realistic assessment of when I can expect to do so.
We all have big plans, dreams and goals we want for ourselves. At least we SHOULD. Let me tell you, once you break down all of them into a 20 year plan, it forces both a scary and exciting kind of immediacy to your life. It gives you perspective on why and what you need to do to fill the gaps between connecting all of those dots of your life goals.
What are your 3 words for 2011? What are your plans? Do you have any?
Have you made any long term goals for yourself?
If not, you had better make the decision to do it now. The clock is ticking. tick… tick… tick… Think i’m kidding? Try it. You’ll see.
As I sit here on the train with my laptop open, contemplating writing a blog post about my new year’s resolutions and what those would actually be, I slowly became aware of this older woman in the opposite seat staring at me, with a very intense, curious, thoughtful kind of look on her face.
Now, she didn’t appear to be a psycho or stoned on antidepressants or anything, so it wasn’t like a crazy sort of stare. She was well dressed in business attire, was holding an expensive looking leather briefcase, and seemed well off, professional and intelligent enough.
She seemed somehow familiar, as if I have seen her before or maybe she just resembled someone I know. Not sure, but regardless, she was obviously fascinated with what I was doing, which, to be honest, pretty much amounted to just spacing off, looking out the window thinking, and dripping coffee on my shirt
So what was the deal?
As I fought to restrain my first impulse to fire back a look of, “So what the hell are you staring at, weirdo?” and to make up a better explanation than maybe I just forgot to wipe the toothpaste from the sides of my mouth again and looked like an idiot, (i do that sometimes…) instead, a strange, elaborate alternate (MUCH more rational) explanation started to form in my mind.
What if: this woman was actually a time traveler from the future? What if she was actually some sort of tourist who liked to go back in time and witness, in person, historical world changing events?
What if: at this very moment in time, I was on the verge of an idea that would drastically change mankind? The very first spark, a lightbulb moment of an idea that would influence world peace or some massive change for good that would permanently change history for the better? What if that was why she was here?
What if: instead of some amazing, positive idea, I was on the verge of making the worst mistake of my life? Something that would negatively impact my life and the lives of my family, friends or the world?
What if: this person was a future relative? What if she were actually my 2 year old daughter, now all grown up, or her children, or children’s children just wanting to see for themselves what made Daddy, or Great Grandpa think up this crazy, amazing or stupid idea?
What if: that time was NOW and instead of me sitting here, it was actually YOU, and YOU were on the verge of making a very important decision that would dramatically effect your life for better. Or worse…
What would that idea or decision be?
What decision was right at the tip of your mind right this very second, but you weren’t aware of it because maybe you weren’t paying attention?
I bet that something IS right at the tip of your mind right now. You just need some motivation and the decision to act on it.
I know what mine is. That’s why this woman sitting across from me made such a strange impression. Call it synchronicity, call it a hunch, but I somehow knew it was more than that. I’ll tell you more about that soon.
For now though, just keep in mind that inspiration comes at the strangest times. Sometimes as a storybook moment with clouds parting, sunbeams, trumpets and angels singing with fireworks going off, and sometimes, we’re just sitting there on the toilet, picking our noses and humming Lady GaGa.
It would definitely be worth traveling back in time to witness some of these events, wouldn’t it? I bet we would be surprised at what that moment actually looked like. Like a random apple falling from a tree, or an “I have a dream” or just a simple “hmmm…”
I don’t know what my point is with all of this, other than I just wanted to share and give you some food for thought,
Think about it and let me know. (and by the way, don’t forget to wipe the toothpaste from the sides of your mouth…)
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